Hot Oral Sex For Him & Her
Oral sex isn’t just foreplay; it’s a sex act in and of itself.
Why do so many women orgasm like crazy during oral sex? Why do so many men ejaculate before they ever get a chance to get their penis into an ass or vagina?
The secret to great oral sex for men and women isn’t about following a script, but following your lover’s cues and knowing a number of different techniques to respond appropriately.
Going Down on Her
Don’t just dive in. Take it slow and easy to build anticipation. If you start from the top of her body, leave a trail of light kisses down her sternum and belly.
Stop at her waist and swirl your tongue in her belly button to give her an idea of what’s to come. If you start from the bottom, caress, kiss and lick your way slowly up the insides of her thighs. Take your time over her outer and then inner lips, first with your fingers and then your tongue. Use light touches and licks until she starts begging for more.
Whatever you do, don’t rip into her outer and inner lips like a bag of potato chips. The inner lips are very delicate and packed with nerve endings. Short, slow licks with the tip of your tongue will get her wetter and tinglier quicker than devouring her like Larry the Cable Guy at an all-you-can-eat country buffet, at least at first. Gradually work up to giving her longer and broader strokes with the flat end of your tongue. Pay attention to the way she moans, squirms between your cheeks, and raises her hips before you start with more aggressive tongue and mouth action.
Just because her clit can get as hard as a pebble doesn’t mean that it can take a pounding.
Suck on it softly. Flick it lightly and quickly with the tip of your tongue as if it’s a wing of a hummingbird. Barely part your lips and blow on it up and down and back and forth.
When you’re ready to make the deep dive into her vagina make sure your mount is properly placed on her pussy. The giver’s mount is the area of the upper lip just above his teeth. A woman’s mount is the center of the pubic bone. You’ll know when you have it right; it’s a natural fit that allows you to get to all the places you need to be.
In some ways, a giver’s tongue can feel more exciting than a penis or dildo. Don’t just stick your tongue inside of her vagina; play with it. Push it in and out like you’re fucking her. Dart it in as far as it can go. Swirl or circle your tongue around her inner walls. Wiggle the tip of your tongue around like you’re tickling her when you’re lapping up her love juices.
Even if she’s already juicy and tasty, get her warm and tingly with some flavored sensation lubes. Your talented tongue will add the extra magic to this orgasmic trick.
Whatever technique you’re using, use finesse. Think of eating pussy like licking an ice cream cone or sucking on a marshmallow.
Going Down on Him
As he’s getting undressed, lie on the bed with your head where your feet usually go, rather than perched on the pillows. As he walks toward the bed, slide down so your head is hanging over the bed, grab his buttocks, and take his penis into your mouth. Your head should be off the bed as you give him oral sex upside down. He’s ultimately in control of the thrusting, but you can use your hands as a guide to speed him up or slow him down. Not only does this look sexy, but it also opens your throat wide so you can take in more of him without gagging.
Lift his penis to expose his testicles, then find the tiny, sometimes darker line that runs up between them. Start a long lick from the underside of his testicles and continue very slowly to the tip of his penis.
Cover your teeth with your lips and then take as much of his penis in your mouth as you can in one movement. You don’t have to deep throat him; just let him see his penis disappear rapidly.
If he really likes for you to go down deep, aim his penis downward instead of toward the back of your mouth. If it takes you a while to master that move, try using an oral sex spray to help numb your throat.
Use one hand to hold the base of the penis and let saliva pool in your mouth to keep your tongue slippery. Make a loose fist with your other hand, lube it up, and slide it up and down his penis, closing it when you reach the head. Get the hand motion right first, then add your mouth, letting your hand act as an extension of it. Create a snug vacuum with your mouth as if it’s a tight vagina and then slide up and down with your hand following your mouth.
Spice up any oral technique by adding some “twist and swirl” action with your tongue. The combination of firm fingers and a soft tongue feels fantastic, and it’s easy to master. As if you’re using your hand to masturbate him, twist it slightly once it reaches the head. At the same time, swirl the flat of your tongue around the rim of the head.
Use a tensed tongue to flick on his frenulum, the band of skin between his head and the foreskin or shaft, or make like a butterfly and flutter the flat surface of your tongue on it.
A nickel- to quarter-sized dollop of flavored lube will make sucking much more fun and enjoyable as well as keeping his shaft slippery if you alternate between playing his skin flute with your mouth and your hands. If you use condoms for fellatio, suck on a banana or make him melt with chocolate.