Dispel The Myths – Sex & The Baby Boomer
The Baby Boomers – those born between 1946 and 1964 – are the largest demographic in the United States. And as the boomers have done with many traditions and taboos along the way, they’re once again forging a path and creating a new “normal” when it comes to sex – wanting it, talking about it, and getting it.
So, before you go make a bunch of assumptions about what is or isn’t going on in a boomer’s bedroom, take a look at some of these myths and thank your lucky stars that 60 is the new 50 and 50 is the new 40, and that we can all enjoy sex well into our golden years.
As we age, we lose the desire to have sex.
What?!? Sure, relationships have their ups and downs, as do our hormones, physical abilities and priorities. It may be harder to get in the mood in your 50’s than it was in your 20’s, but you can have great sex at any age.
A healthy diet, frequent exercise and open communication will certainly help things along. Throw in some fun sex toys, sexy lingerie, a little role playing and maybe some blue pills now and again if necessary.
At a certain point in a relationship, sex doesn’t really matter.
Don’t fool yourself. It always matters. We all need to love and be loved – and that includes sexual intimacy! There’s an old saying that goes something along the lines of this: When sex in a relationship is good, nobody notices it. But when it’s not good (or it’s non-existent), everyone notices it!
And while it’s normal, of course, to be comfortable with your partner, avoiding or diminishing the importance of sex in a relationship often turns couples into buddies, making that special spark even harder to rekindle. This can also contribute to weakening the strength of their relationship.
A woman loses the ability to achieve orgasm as she ages.
Wow, this couldn’t be farther from the truth! As a woman ages, she typically learns more about her body and knows what she likes and dislikes. Many women also shed many sexual inhibitions that they may been holding onto when they were younger. Mature sex is no longer about exploring foreign terrain; it’s about feeling good in your own skin and not being afraid to get what you want.
In fact, many women find sex after 50 to be more emotionally and physically satisfying than at any other stage in their lives. If lubrication has become a problem due to changing hormones, there’s a remedy for that.
A man loses his ability to achieve an erection as he ages.
There’s no wonder why people think this is true for all men. Who hasn’t seen an erectile dysfunction (“ED”) commercial on television? To the average viewer, men over 40 can only have sex if they take their meds and somehow, they’re all getting busy in matching bathtubs overlooking some magnificent vista.
Now, while it’s true that diminishing hormone levels can increase the occurrence of erectile dysfunction in older men, it shouldn’t prevent couples from having fun, superhot sex lives. Men can increase their erectile abilities through exercise, proper nutrition, masturbation, using a vast array of sex toys and adult pleasure products as well as increased foreplay. Men can also look into ED medications. See more with The Hardness Factor by Dr. Steven Lamm.
You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
Repeat after me: “Yes, you can!” And you should! For anyone of any age, there are so many fantastic new sex toys, games and new styles of sex furniture on the market – there’s no excuse to not have a great sex life. View some fun items here.
ED? No problem. Double ended vibrators and dildos that stimulate her g-spot and his prostate at the same time – talk about hot! Check out all the hot sex toys.
Vaginal lubrication issues? Have you seen how many different lubricants are available these days? Water-based, silicone-based. Flavored. Warming. Cooling. The list goes on and on. And gone are the days when you have to go to a seedy store to buy such items. Check out our great lubricants.
No one said that sex would be the same as it was in your twenties. But isn’t that a good thing? Don’t we grow mentally and emotionally as we age, becoming more aware of who we are and what we want in life? So too should our sexual life!
So, now it’s up to you. Dispel some myths of your own…and by all means, let us know how we can help.