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BDSM is Good for You!

BDSM is Good for You!

BDSM sex toys Austin Little Shop of O'sEven though the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) lists BDSM as a paraphilia (an unusual sexual fixation) and considers it a disorder if it causes harm, some researchers say that the benefits can outweigh its unsavory reputation. The definition for BDSM can be found here.

A study of 14 switches (people that play both dominant and submissive roles), conducted by a graduate researcher at Northern Illinois University, found that the switches  performed poorly in the part of the brain that controls memory, abstract thinking, self-reflective consciousness and cognitive flexibility.

But performing poorly in these areas isn’t necessarily a bad thing. The upside of not doing well in these functions can bring on feelings of floating, peacefulness, and reduced anxiety.

This clinical finding isn’t anything new to those who practice BDSM. For submissives, these traits are referred to as subspace.

“Subspace for me isn’t always the same feeling twice,” says Kayla Lords, a submissive who pens the blog A Sexual Being kaylalords.com. “Depending on the scene we’ve just had, the boundaries crossed, the passions released, and other factors, I experience subspace a little differently. I’ve had the floaty, peaceful feeling that many people describe. I’m unable to hold onto thoughts. My muscles are completely loose and relaxed to the point that I can’t move. It literally feels like I’m flying. I’ve been told my eyes glaze over, as well. However, the last time I went deep into subspace was completely different. My thoughts were fairly coherent, but I could not make my body cooperate. I had total lack of speech and an inability to move. I wish I had a good explanation for the difference or even how I achieve subspace but I know it’s achieved easiest when I completely let go and trust my partner to take me to a new place physically and emotionally.”

Also, in May 2013, researchers at Tilburg University published a study that found that people who practice BDSM were on average more extroverted, open to new experiences, conscientious, less neurotic, less sensitive to rejection and had a higher sense of well-being.

It should be noted that the people studied, especially Doms, were found to be less agreeable people than most. But hey, there’s no such thing as being perfect. Call it bravery to go against norms.

Generally speaking, those who practice BDSM tend to take on sexual roles that are opposite of the roles they play in their day-to-day lives. Those who have jobs or responsibilities that involve being in charge of others tend to take on sexually submissive roles. The thinking behind this is that such people like to have a way of compensating for the pressure of command and experiencing a sense of relief from the burden of being responsible for others.

This all gives a whole new meaning to hurts so good, doesn’t it?

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There are also many books on the topic help you along; BDSM 101, Little Book of Kink,  Bondage for Beginners, Ultimate Guide to Kink and much more!