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The Orgasm Report

The Orgasm Report
on January 17, 2018 in Sex Talk

girl with colorful powdered makeup on her faceEven when experienced with another person (or people!), an orgasm is still a highly individual experience. Your partner might be coming right along with you, but the sensations, and the locations where those sensations are most acutely felt, differ wildly from person to person. In our never-ending quest to shed light on the human sexual experience, we sat down with friends of various genders and orientations and asked them to get intimate with us by describing, in explicit detail, what an orgasm feels like (most common question from responders: “What kind of orgasm?”).

We’ve gathered their responses below; read on for a beautiful spectrum of sexual pleasure.

 

“It feels like this ball of energy sitting at the base of my spine that grows bigger and hungrier until the (literal) light-show explosion. The orgasm itself is deep and dark, tastes salty, and feels like every muscle and organ in my abdomen clenches and gets reconfigured into a new pattern. The pleasure is sharp, overwhelming, demanding, wrenching, claiming, consuming. It exhausts me in the best, most addictive, way possible. Afterwards, it feels like I took the best yoga class or had a really great trail run. I feel utterly connected to my body and the world.”

Cis-female/Femme, Queer/Bi, 30s

 

“When I’m just about there, I feel it building up near my pelvic floor, feels like what I imagine might be forcing liquid through a crazy straw. Then I just want to thrust as deep as possible while it’s going. Tense, but still and deep. Then after a minute, it’s time for cuddling and skin on skin. Every once in a while there’s also a brief, ‘Condom’s still on, right? Great!’”

Male, Straight, 40s

 

“When approaching climax, my body begins to tighten, my pussy gets deliciously achy, my breathing accelerates, my breasts feel heavier, and I usually try to hold on to something as if I might float away if not anchored. Once I begin to cum my body stiffens and I lose awareness of my limbs and body apart from my pussy. Sounds, sights, smells, and sensations fade completely as long as my orgasm lasts and only return slowly after my orgasm ends. This, to me, is my body’s way of saying nothing in this world is more important than my pleasure in the moment. Forget the rest; focus on how amazing this feels.”

Female, Bisexual, 30s

 

“I remember reading, a long time ago, some lucky men get chills when they urinate — it feels good. For the really lucky ones, it’s akin to, or better than, an orgasm. I’m only slightly lucky, in that sometimes I get a pleasant chill when I pee. When I get a “real” chill, the kind that gives people goosebumps, that’s even better. I’ve learned to let these ride up and down my spine, zip across my back. When it’s over, I shake it off like a dog in from the rain. Everyone wants to know what happened. ‘Just a chill,’ I say. Imagine that times a lot, and a great deal less self-control.”

Male, Straight, 30s

 

“Sometimes, my entire existence will get sucked through an infinitely tiny point, become infinitely large on the other side, then pull back through…and the process repeats so I’m simultaneously aware of both extremes of scale. The feeling is physical somehow, but I don’t have a body or orientation in the material world.”

Female, Lesbian, 30s

 

“Certainly, I can talk about sating the skin hunger….steadily climbing body temperature, desire coalescing into a pinpoint of muscle spasms only to melt into total relaxation. It’s great for cold nights when I can’t seem to get warm, or have trouble drifting off to sleep. For me, though, all the physicality of the process is more like a business transaction. Over and done in five minutes, mission accomplished. That is, unless there is also a mental and emotional component to it.”

Trans Man, Heteroromantic, 60s

 

While the intense pleasure of an orgasm (however it feels for you) can certainly brighten your day and put that extra spring in your step, reaching climax is hardly the only factor that determines good sex (for some it’s not a factor at all). Even without the big bang at the end, sex can still be incredibly hot, extremely intimate, and the ultimate in pleasure and connection. If you haven’t talked about your orgasmic sensations with your partner(s), we’d encourage you to give it a try — you never know what you might learn!

 

Author Bio:

Charlotte Sometimes

Charlotte Sometimes is a writer, teacher, performer, and prominent member of the local sex positive community. She has been a fierce advocate for accurate and comprehensive sex education since her Catholic high school days and is excited to share her research and experience with you. Her favorite things include straight whiskey, spin the bottle, good books, feminist porn, and snuggling. Charlotte lives in Austin, TX with her partner and her partner’s partner, which is way less scandalous than it sounds.

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